Here’s the deal my love… much of this whole birthing a biz thing really just boils down to having the confidence to go for it.
It’s really step #1.
Sure there are SO many steps along the way, but it all begins with you having that dream and then having the confidence to act on it. But confidence is no easy thing you say.
How can you be confident in something you’ve never done before?
Practice!
You know those ladies who just ooze confidence no matter what they’re doing or who they’re with? That’s the kind of woman who takes actions on her dreams… no matter what.
Start practicing building your confidence muscle and you’ll be that woman we all look to and wonder how she does it in no time.
Here’s 3 FUN ways I like to play with my confidence:
1. Car dancing
Yep! Get your groove on mama! I love music and when I’m in the car I easily find myself rockin’ out behind the steering wheel. I allow myself to get lost in the moment and truly feel the fun of being THAT person at the stoplight.
Here’s why it works: you’ll notice yourself occasionally worrying about what those in other cars are thinking about you. When you do, you have the opportunity to turn your focus inward again and get back to fist pumping, finger drumstickin’, and some shoulder shimmies. This is excellent practice for learning to not care what other people think and to have fun getting lost in the moment! Imagine the effect that would have on other areas of your life!
2. Flash those pearly whites
A smile goes a long way to brightening someone else’s day and just simply makes you feel damn good to be alive. Practice smiling at everyone you meet from that hot guy at the gym you’ve been scoping out for a month (yeah girl, I’m talkin’ to you) to the grocery girl who looks like she’s ready for a xanax. First you’ll notice the response as people smile back, strike up a conversation, or are even caught off guard by your gesture. Then over time you’ll begin to notice how their reaction becomes less and less important as it becomes more of your natural way of being.
Here’s why it works: smiles are contagious! People simply want to be around happy people. And how fun is it to make someone’s day simply because a beautiful, radiant woman just smiled at them?! Not to mention all that science about how smiling has a biological effect on the brain and your mood. Sometimes in a particularly challenging yoga pose, my instructors will cue for us to smile so we can release all that good shit (I don’t believe that’s the scientific name for it but I’ll have to check Google) into our bodies. All this smiling at others helps you drop some of those walls and become much more approachable, plus it simply feels great. Confidence factor immediately improves!
3. Do something a bit out of character
You gotta stretch lady! Baby steps totally tested and approved! For me, this has looked like everything from wearing something that I wasn’t sure I could pull off to trying aerial yoga to telling that random person in Starbucks that I’m a writer. All of these felt a bit scary at first. Would I look like an idiot? Would they believe me? Could I really pull this off? (No, yes, YES!) Have fun doing small things that are out of your comfort zone and give you that sense that you’re being a little bit mischievous. This looks different for all of us so the possibilities are endless!
Here’s why it works: to do something you’ve never done before, you’ve got to get a bit comfortable with being uncomfortable and doing it anyway. Practicing with small, fun steps helps you play around with what it feels like to have a few butterflies and then conquer them. It serves to remind you that going after what you want is FUN and you can enjoy the process, even when things feel a bit scary.
Birthing a business is fun and takes a ton of confidence… and sometimes we don’t even realize that’s the root of the issue. If you can play with silly things like these, imagine what you can do when you get super focused on that big dream?
Yowee. Watch out world.
Have fun with these and tell us in the comments below how it went for you!
